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Great feedback for DadSkills Online Childbirth Classes for the Dad to be

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I am a first time father and I was definitely appreciative to utilise some of the information I learned from the DadSkills childbirth classes during the birth of my daughter. My wife had an extremely quick delivery and I found I literally had to draw from instincts because there just wasn’t enough time for anything else. Luckily, I found doing the preparation helped me to make better choices during my wife’s labour.

Firstly, the intensity was full on. I found I was thankful to have the time I needed to get the car packed by myself so I could avoid showing my wife how bloody overwhelmed I was, especially because she was in so much pain and transitioning quickly. Taking the time out I needed, so I when I was with my wife I could be calm, focused and supportive made me strong for her so she could feel safe and calm during the process.

It also really gave me a sense of being the protective advocate when I needed to be. There were a few situations during the birth eg. ‘You’ll get a sore throat if you keep on moaning’, or possible choices that we’d have to make that went against the hospitals desires during post birth stitching when she really needed my support to speak up and stand firm so we could have the birthing experience we wanted. Confronting any nervousness we had about experiencing conflict before the birth took away a majority of the anxiety.

Lastly, it made me have thicker skin. When my wife swatted me away when I was giving her directions on how to push, I didn’t take it personally. We had discussed beforehand how she might feel more reassured by receiving guidance from the women at her birth because of their inherent knowledge and how this would make her feel safer and I was at peace with that. My wife guided me through what she needed, mainly strength and physical contact, to keep reassuring her that all that was happening was ok.

~ Dave Sandison father to Violet


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Homebirth was good enough for our Queen. Will Princess Katherine do the same?

What a surprise! I didnt know that Her Majesty had all four children at home. Will our future Queen do the same?

Queen with her new baby


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What makes a good childbirth class?

At DadSkills online childbirth classes for the dad-to-be we have been providing online childbirth classes to dads for over a year now. It didn’t start here though. As doulas and childbirth educators we have been working with mums and dads to be for over 11 years.

During this time, we have made it our mission to analyse what makes a great childbirth class.

This is what we have found and, as a consequence, developed our very own childbirth classes – just for dads to be.

1. Is Dad-to-be included?

By this we don’t mean “Is he welcome to attend the class?” We mean is, “Is his role actively encouraged in the childbirth class?” I have been irritated so many times by how the dad-to-be’s role is belittled. It doesn’t matter what type of birth it is, EVERY birth needs a supportive partner.

2. Is Dad-to-be taught how to help the labour progress and how to help with pain coping practices?

This is where the naturals skills of the dad-to-be come in. If dads-to-be are given specific tools they can make a HUGE difference to how the birth progresses AND how their partner copes with the pain of labour.

3. Is the Dad-to-be shown how to advocate for his partner?

DadSkills has three blogs now about advocacy, have a read:

4. Does the class get you talking about your birth preferences before the birth?

We have found countless times that the more couples talk about what they BOTH want before the birth, the more calm and connected to each other they are. This is great preparation for parenthood – being on the same page.

5. Does your childbirth class talk about what to expect when you get home?

I am still flabergastered at the lack of information around this. You are about to undergo huge changes to your bodies, relationships and finances, just to name a few. We don’t want to scare you. We want to help you.

6. Does the class answer the questions you most want to ask but feel silly asking?

How many times have you heard, “Any questions?”, only to hear crickets. I will let you on in a little secret. Everyone wants to ask the same questions. DadSkills childbirth classes have a series of short videos that answer the most frequently asked questions, from “I’m worried about seeing my partner in pain”, to “When is the best time to go to hospital?”

7. Does it talk about caesarean births?

Now this is contentious. Everyone has an opinion about birthing by caesarean or naturally. The bottom line is, that although our wish is for you to have a ‘textbook’, low-risk, uncomplicated birth, we can’t promise you this. DadSkills firmly believes it’s good to know what to expect if you are faced with a caesarean birth. Even it’s not what you were planning.

What we have found is that most hospital and birth centre-based childbirth classes focus on the mum-to-be and how the facility is run. This is all good info, of course there needs to be a lot of focus on the mum-to-be. And who doesn’t want to know where the after hours access is? Or who you should call if you are thinking of transferring to the hospital. However these things do very little to properly prepare you for becoming a family.

So when you’re making a decision around what childbirth classes you are going to attend, we strongly recommend trying to make your decision based less around whether or not it is free, and more around what benefits you will receive from the classes.

Online Childbirth Classes Salute World Doula Week

Its World Doula Week and we thought we would share Birth Doula Movie’s take on the great work of doulas.


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Online Childbirth Classes Salute Multiple Birth Week

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Whenever I think about parents with twins, triplets or quadruplets I am reminded of a mum whom I studied with and her experience of having quadruplets.

I discovered that she actually had 5 children, all born within 13 months. She fell pregnant very quickly after the birth of her first baby and was very distressed as she had very little support (her family living elsewhere in Australia) and her husband working long hours. These were the days before ultrasound was standard practice and so it was quite late in her pregnancy that she found out that she was carrying more than one baby.

She was sent up to the major hospital to be seen by the obstetrician as her GP was certain he could hear two heartbeats.  She was ushered into a room where a very well-spoken English doctor listened intently through a pinnard for what seemed like ages. He then stood up very straight and, in his very proper accent, exclaimed, “Well bugger me, there are four of them!” Needless to say there were many tears and cups of teas for the next few days whilst this life-changing news sunk in.

I was fascinated with how she had managed to cope with what seemed to me like an impossible mission. I still think that, especially as I now have a neighbour with triplets.

Both of these sets of parents were very open about how they found it. They can’t give enough praise for the Australian Multiple Births Organisation that has so many great resources and practical information for parents looking at having twins or HOMS (higher order multiples). There are publications available for purchase which cover all the questions you may have about preparing for the birth right up to preparing for school.

They also can’t say enough great things about the help they received from family and friends.

The mother of the quads flew her own mother over for three months to help with the first child and the feeding and changing of the babies. As the babies were tiny they needed to use cloth nappies so she used a nappy service to help with this. They recruited friends and neighbours to make dinners and had a spare freezer full of them so that they were set for 6 months without needing to cook. The father was able to take a month off work and fully support his wife in this new role.

They stressed how important it was to be prepared. They were immediately faced with needing to have more space, a new car and strain on finances. They said it was important to sort this out before the babies arrived. That way they could just fully emerse themselves in bonding and caring for these new little people.

Many ‘multiples’ are born by caesarean, but we have been hearing great things happening with twins and triplets being born vaginally with a huge support network of doulas and midwives and obstetricians. There have been many blogs about the journeys of these families. Cath is fortunate enough to have supported a couple who birthed one baby vaginally and the second baby by caesearean. A very dear friend of mine also did this. The excellent website Birthing Without Fear has videos and birth stories of multiple births.

During this month, many people celebrated Multiple Births Week (10 to 17 March) and DadSkills online childbirth classes for the Dad-to-be would like to pay homage to these very special families.


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Our most controversial post yet!

Check out our most controversial post yet!

Medical care is all about what’s best for my partner and baby? Right?

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Advocacy Slide

Is it hard for dads to say ‘I love you’?

Was looking through The Perfect Father interview clips and came across this one. I think it’s worth reflecting on.

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DadSkills is here!

Ever wondered what we talk about. Here is a snippet.


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Writing the controversial blog

Feeling very excited and nervous at the same time with our latest blog due out in the next couple of days……Kinda like a birth. Wanting it to happen but oooohhhhh. A wee bit nervous.



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What’s so great about Christmas?

Last year we talked about dads, traditions and Christmas.

This year we thought we would focus on the great things about Christmas.

1.  Time for a break

You generally get a few days off in a row to eat, drink, be merry and hang out with your loved ones. If you are lucky like me, you get time off with your partner for a whole two weeks as your family business shuts down or you take annual leave. Looking forward to that. (For those who don’t have time off at Christmas, check out Dads, Traditions and Christmas for some great alternative ideas.)

2.  The beach

It’s summer here in Australia so we get to head down the road to our stunning local beach. My hubby gets to swim out with the boys to the pontoon and jump off, look for shells and starfish and after all of this share an icecream, and then head home for a afternoon nap. We know our snow dwelling friends in the northern hemisphere have similar fun activities in the cold and really enjoy this time.

3.  Christmas tree decorating

Every year in the McKay family we spend the 1st of December together decorating the tree. There is always music and yummy treats and we all take turns putting up our favourite decorations and the new ones we have made this year. We love this family time together and it’s now one of our rituals that everyone loves. (Cath wishes it were so, tree decorating in the Cook family consists of her son constructing the tree, end of story, and then her daughter decorating with help from herself, with hubby hiding anywhere he can! Not quite how she envisaged their family tradition.)

4.  It’s a great time for reflection

Every year we sit back with our boys and go over the year that has rushed by. We talk about all the wonderful times we have had, what our highlights have been. We also cover the not-so-great days and how we coped with these times. It usually comes back to our strengths as a family and how we can stick together. I suppose this is the Aussie version of thanksgiving. This gives us the ability to look forward and discuss what we would like to do for the new year, what our hopes and dreams are.

5.  Carols by candlelight

If you’ve ever had an Aussie carols night you’ll know that it’s usually ‘carols by sunset’. And boy are our sunsets spectacular. We usually head down to the Fremantle Arts Centre and meet up with loads of our friends. The picnic is packed along with a few beers. We love the community feel of Fremantle (money is raised at the door) and how we can all sing and watch the children have so much fun.

6.  Giving (and receiving)

Each year we give to our preferred charities. It’s a way of giving back and hoping that we can make another less fortunate family have a lovely Xmas. The McKays always give to the Kmart Wishing Tree, supporting the Salvation Army and the tremendous work they do in the community. The Cooks choose to buy a Gift of Compassion, providing a much needed services in countries less fortunate than ours. I try to make my gifts or buy from local small businesses to help them along too. Of course everyone loves to get a present. We just try to keep it low key and from the heart. Our boys have been busy at school making something for Sean and I which we look forward to.

I have about a hundred other points on why Christmas is just so fab but will keep it to the ones above.

Cath Cook and I (and the extended DadSkills team) would like to wish all our new dads, mums and babies, our supporters and followers a wonderful, happy and safe Christmas, however you choose to celebrate Christmas this year. We look forward to being able to do even more great and wonderful things to support dads and their families in the new year.

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